Responsible and Generous Living in Early Adulthood

But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents. – Mark 12:42

What to do When a Friend Tries to Sell You Life Insurance

1. It’s bound to happen

Young adulthood is a season of life filled with firsts, many of which are encouraging and exciting. I remember the first time I saw a contribution to my 401(k) come through, it really made me feel like a grown up. When Krista and I opened up her Roth IRA, we felt really responsible. When we took our first vacation together as a married couple, the two of us felt like a family. It is moments and experiences like these that make me very thankful to be a young adult. You are setting the trajectory for the rest of your life, and there are so many possibilities and opportunities.

On the other hand young adulthood is full of firsts that are less than enjoyable. I remember my first time paying real taxes, oh how simple it was when my mom’s accountant did my taxes and the government gave me tons of money back. I can also remember the first time I realized that all of the college athletes I watch on TV are younger than I am, yikes! Another first many of you have probably experienced is the first time that one of your friend’s tries to sell you life insurance. I’ll say it upfront, it can be a bit awkward.

This first happened for me recently. I got a call from a college friend of mine who said he was going to be in the area where I live and said he wanted to talk. I hadn’t seen him in a while so I was glad to get together with him to have the chance to catch up. We met in the student union building at George Fox (where we both went to college) and he told me about the new job he had gotten working for a life insurance company. To my friends credit he was really honest with me, he told me that as a life insurance salesman he had been instructed to work his contacts (family and friends) to try and sell policies and he knew that I didn’t really need life insurance.

He also said something to me that I’ll never forget, when I asked him what he disliked about his job he replied

Jon, I hate trying to sell my friends life insurance they don’t need.

Insurance companies often recruit young unemployed business and accounting majors (like my friend) to work as life insurance salespeople. As many of you probably know, when you are sitting on student loan debt there are very few things you wont do to make ends meet. All of my friends who have gotten into selling life insurance didn’t choose to do so, they did so because they had to get a job. They work solely on commission and after a brief training period they are sent out to try and sell life insurance to the people they know. I would wager that if you haven’t already been contacted by someone you know about life insurance, you will be, and before you go into that conversation you better know what product your friend is trying to sell you.

2. What is life insurance, and why you may or may not need it

Life insurance is a financial product that many people in early adulthood don’t feel they need, although life insurance companies are eager to sell it to us. Its real purpose is to protect your family and dependents against the loss of your income in case of your death. For a young adult this is typically an unanticipated death. Essentially a life insurance policy provides a sum of money that in the case of your death will be paid to a beneficiary, your spouse or children.

This type of insurance comes in two distinct flavors:

  • Cash value life insurance:

Cash value life insurance is touted as both a life insurance policy and and investment vehicle, and it is a complete rip off. A cash value life insurance policy has an inflated premium that is split between paying for life insurance  and the rest is supposedly invested to help provide for your retirement. The reality is that the returns on a cash value life insurance policy are terrible (they average about 3% annually), because these policies are loaded with commissions and fees that eat into the returns and add to the insurance companies profits. A healthy 30 year old male can buy $125,000 of Cash Value Life insurance for about $100 per month. This may seem reasonable until you compare this cost to the cost of a similar $125,000 term life insurance policy (discussed below).

There is no one, ever, who needs to purchase cash value. Especially young adults. Take the money you would have spent on a cash value policy and invest it in some of the trusted mutual funds we recommend and take your investing future into your own hands. Unfortunately a friend who tries to sell you life insurance will often try to sell you a cash value policy, because they make a much better commission off your policy. Just say no — don’t be afraid to be direct. You don’t have to do your friend a favor by buying this type of policy.

Fortunately there is an alternative to cash value life insurance, it is a smoking deal and depending upon your circumstance can be a valuable asset.

  • Term life insurance:

If you have dependents (kids or other family members) who would need your income to be replaced in the case of your death, you absolutely should invest in a term life insurance policy. Term life insurance has a time frame associated with its benefits (that’s where the term comes from). This length is usually about 20 years. In the case of your death the face value of the policy would be paid to the beneficiary you chose for the stated amount of time. This will help your spouse until kids are out of the house or help other dependents manage until they can readjust to life without your income.

A healthy 30 year old male can buy a 20 year $125,000 term life insurance policy for around $7 per month, a $93 monthly savings over a similar cash value policy. That $93 isn’t invested for you like a Cash Value plan. However, if you wanted you could take that $93 and invest it each month in a good mutual fund earning about 9% (the stock market average). At the end of those 20 years you will have over $62,000. A cash value life insurance policy won’t get you even close to this type of return.

3. If you buy life insurance, always choose term

Term life insurance is a great product, and if you have dependents you should definitely invest in a policy. Plus if you have a friend who happens to sell life insurance they can sell you a term policy. They wont make very much commission off your policy but you will have gotten a great product and been able to help a friend.

If a friend tries to sell you life insurance –JUST SAY TERM! If you still don’t believe me, both Dave Ramsey and Suze Orman agree, term is the way to go.

What have been your experiences with friends trying to sell you life insurance? Do you have any advice or suggestions about how to graciously interact with that friend? Tell us about it.


2 comments on “What to do When a Friend Tries to Sell You Life Insurance

  1. Tonya Comfort
    May 9, 2013

    If you are interested in working overseas, get life insurance before you go. From experience we learned that it is next to impossible to buy life insurance after you are living overseas. Too much risk. But if you already have a policy, they can’t take it away from you.

    And I agree that whole life is not worth the paper it is written on. Do your own investing; the rate of return is much better.

    • jkmaroni
      May 10, 2013

      Thank you Tonya!

      These are helpful tips, especially for those I’m sure looking into mission work or heading to graduate school overseas. I wouldn’t have thought of that before, I appreciate the insight.


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